How to keep (or restore) your faith in the universe
Do you ever find it hard to believe that everything happens for the best? When things don’t turn out as hoped, it’s easy to get discouraged and lose hope (especially since one negative thought feeds the next). How do you stay positive when the things aren’t happening the way you envisioned, or on the timeline you […]
An unexpected way to uncover your fears
Some of our fears are obvious. And some of our fears are not. We’re usually aware of the obvious ones. But how do we uncover the ones lurking in the background, hidden from the conscious mind? I had coffee with a friend who’s writing a book. I was super excited to talk to her about […]
Where limiting beliefs come from
I’ve noticed a simple pattern that has a complicated effect on our lives: Something happens. We make an assumption about what that event means – about ourselves, about others, about the world and how we fit within it. We live our lives as if that assumption is true. To put this into context, here’s an […]
Are you fighting for your limitations?
“It’s impossible.” “I can’t do it.” “This just isn’t going to work.” When we decide how something’s going to turn out before we even try, it’s a non-starter. We’re doomed before we even begin. But if we’re willing to consider the possibility that our mind has jumped to a conclusion that may or may not […]
How are you sabotaging yourself?
Have you ever heard of underlying commitments? The concept’s come up for me a couple times lately, so last week I decided to explore it for myself. In a nutshell, underlying commitments are the things we’re truly committed to, which we may not be aware of and may not be in alignment with our stated goals. For […]
Are you dreaming big enough?
When I think about the reasons people have for not going after their dreams, it often comes down to one or more of these: “I don’t know how to ________,” “I don’t have ________,” or “I can’t because I’m not ________.” Those blanks list out the information, resources and qualities we feel we’re missing in order to accomplish […]
An alternate perspective on failure and rejection
Most of us have a bad relationship with failure and rejection. They seem painful, hard, depressing, easier to avoid . . . With good reason: Failure and rejection both hurt. They aren’t the types of experiences most of us would choose to have, especially given other options. Would you want to apply for a job . . […]
The true cost of self-doubt
I read something the other day about how indecision is potentially our greatest threat. It made me wonder, How much does self-doubt impact my life? I remember realizing that my life was in a state of perpetual indecision when I was 29. It was filled with questioning when it came to just about everything: Should I stay with the company I’m with, […]
Two kinds of fear
In my experience, there’s two kinds of fear: The fear that you experience when you step outside your comfort zone, and . . . The fear that you experience when you stay within it. Now, you might be thinking: There’s fear inside my comfort zone? That doesn’t seem right… I hear ya. Stay with me for […]
Are you avoiding fear?
It’s scary how easy it can be to avoid fear. I feel like a master: In my 20s, I avoided having “the talk” with the man I’d been dating for years. I usually wait until the very last minute to do my taxes because they’re complicated and scary and force you to look at how much money […]