An unexpected way to uncover your fears
Some of our fears are obvious. And some of our fears are not. We’re usually aware of the obvious ones. But how do we uncover the ones lurking in the background, hidden from the conscious mind? I had coffee with a friend who’s writing a book. I was super excited to talk to her about […]
How are you sabotaging yourself?
Have you ever heard of underlying commitments? The concept’s come up for me a couple times lately, so last week I decided to explore it for myself. In a nutshell, underlying commitments are the things we’re truly committed to, which we may not be aware of and may not be in alignment with our stated goals. For […]
Are you dreaming big enough?
When I think about the reasons people have for not going after their dreams, it often comes down to one or more of these: “I don’t know how to ________,” “I don’t have ________,” or “I can’t because I’m not ________.” Those blanks list out the information, resources and qualities we feel we’re missing in order to accomplish […]
An alternate perspective on failure and rejection
Most of us have a bad relationship with failure and rejection. They seem painful, hard, depressing, easier to avoid . . . With good reason: Failure and rejection both hurt. They aren’t the types of experiences most of us would choose to have, especially given other options. Would you want to apply for a job . . […]
The true cost of self-doubt
I read something the other day about how indecision is potentially our greatest threat. It made me wonder, How much does self-doubt impact my life? I remember realizing that my life was in a state of perpetual indecision when I was 29. It was filled with questioning when it came to just about everything: Should I stay with the company I’m with, […]
Two kinds of fear
In my experience, there’s two kinds of fear: The fear that you experience when you step outside your comfort zone, and . . . The fear that you experience when you stay within it. Now, you might be thinking: There’s fear inside my comfort zone? That doesn’t seem right… I hear ya. Stay with me for […]
Are you avoiding fear?
It’s scary how easy it can be to avoid fear. I feel like a master: In my 20s, I avoided having “the talk” with the man I’d been dating for years. I usually wait until the very last minute to do my taxes because they’re complicated and scary and force you to look at how much money […]
The goal of failure (or why I want to fail as much as possible)
How do you relate to your goals? I’ve noticed that a lot of people are reluctant to set them. It’s easier to just “go with the flow” than to invite the possibility of failure into our lives. (To be fair, fear of failure isn’t the only thing contributing to that reluctance. Our habits and not knowing […]
What’s holding you back?
Do you ever get in your own way? I suspect many of us do. In fact, I have yet to meet a person who, if they’re being honest, doesn’t do this in some way at some point in their lives. As a human being, I find it fascinating to notice this kind of behaviour. As a […]
Are you leaving your dreams to chance?
A friend asked me what I was up to the other day. My response: “I think I might do some editing on my online meditation course.” It seemed like a productive use of my time. I felt like I had good intentions, at least until she pointed out that I always use the words, “I think […]